Adding Excitement: How to Introduce Toys into the Bedroom

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Welcome to the Little Desires blog! If you're looking to spice up your intimate moments, introducing adult toys into the bedroom can be a fantastic way to explore new sensations, deepen your connection, and have some fun. Whether you’re a newcomer or someone looking to expand their collection, this guide will help ease any uncertainties and provide practical tips for making the experience enjoyable for you and your partner.

Why Introduce Toys?

Adult toys can enhance pleasure, facilitate exploration of different fantasies, and help you discover new things about your desires and those of your partner. They can also address specific needs, such as increasing arousal, improving stamina, or adding variety to your sex life.

Benefits of Using Adult Toys:

  • Enhanced Pleasure: Discover new ways to stimulate and enjoy each other.
  • Better Communication: Opens up dialogue about desires and boundaries.
  • Increased Intimacy: Bonds partners through shared experiences.
  • Overcoming Challenges: Assists with sexual health concerns like low libido or erectile dysfunction.

1. Opening the Discussion

Bringing up the topic of introducing toys to your partner might feel intimidating, but open and honest communication is key. Approach the conversation with sensitivity and a non-judgmental attitude.

Conversation Starters:

  • "Have you ever thought about exploring new things in the bedroom?"
  • "I read this interesting article about how toys can enhance our intimacy. What do you think?"
  • "I came across a toy that I think we both might enjoy. Would you be open to trying it?"

2. Start Simple

For those new to toys, it’s best to start with something simple and non-intimidating. Choose something that complements your usual activities rather than changes them entirely.

Beginner Toy Suggestions:

  • Vibrators and Bullet Vibrators: Small, simple to use, and versatile.
  • Couples’ Rings: Enhances pleasure for both partners.
  • Blindfolds and Restraints: Adds an element of surprise and anticipation without being too intense.
  • Lubricant: Enhances comfort and sensation and is a great starting point for introducing toys.

3. Make it a Mutual Experience

When you’re ready to introduce the toy, make it a mutual experience. Use the toy on each other, taking turns to explore and enjoy the sensations together. Remember, it’s about enhancing the experience for both of you.

Tips for Mutual Enjoyment:

  • Set the Mood: Light some candles, put on soft music, and create a comfortable setting.
  • Go Slow: Start slowly to build arousal and comfort. Pay attention to each other’s reactions.
  • Stay Communicative: Keep talking to each other about what feels good and what doesn’t.

4. Educate Yourselves

Educating yourselves about the toys you're interested in is essential. Read reviews, watch tutorials, and explore how-to guides to ensure you’re using toys safely and effectively.


  • Product Instructions: Always read the manual or instructions that come with your toy.
  • Online Tutorials: Many websites and YouTube channels offer how-to guides and reviews.
  • Blogs and Forums: Join online communities where people share experiences and tips.

5. Prioritize Safety and Hygiene

Ensure you’re following safe practices when using toys. Clean them before and after use, and follow any specific maintenance instructions provided by the manufacturer.

Safety Tips:

  • Use the Right Lubricant: Some toys require specific types of lube (e.g., water-based for silicone toys).
  • Cleanliness: Use toy cleaners or mild soap to clean your toys. Pay special attention to any nooks and crannies.
  • Storage: Keep toys in a clean, dry place, preferably in a dedicated toy bag to avoid damage or contamination.

6. Reflect and Adapt

After trying out a toy, take some time to reflect on the experience with your partner. Discuss what you both enjoyed and anything you’d like to try differently next time.

Post-Play Discussion:

  • What did you enjoy most about using the toy?
  • Is there anything that didn’t work as well as you’d hoped?
  • Are there other toys or activities you’re curious about trying?


Introducing toys into the bedroom can bring a whole new level of excitement and intimacy to your relationship. By communicating openly, starting simply, and ensuring mutual enjoyment, you can create wonderful experiences that both you and your partner will treasure.

At Little Desires, we offer a wide range of toys for beginners and experienced users alike. Explore our collection today and find the perfect addition to your intimate moments.

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We’d love to hear about your experiences and questions in the comments below. Let’s continue exploring the world of pleasure together!


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